Bibit Bebet Bobot

Yang orang Jawa pasti gak asing sama istilah itu. Pasti dengernya pun dari para tetua di keluarga. Apalagi urusan cari jodoh. Kalau kata si papah dulu ya cari calon suami itu..

..harus jelas bibit bebet bobot nya..

Kalau bahasa modern nya itu sih background check nya jelas. Jelas keluarganya dimana, jelas pekerjaannya apa, jelas sekolah dimana dll. Jadi kalau papa mama dulu kalau dikenalin sama gebetan yang agak-agak burem gak jelas udah pasti gak lolos ke babak berikutnya πŸ˜†
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Love Is A Battlefield

*pasang lagunya Pat Benatar dulu buat jadi soundtrack post ini… πŸ˜†

Gara-gara ngobrol sama salah satu sahabat saya yang masih lajang, gw baru ngeh dan inget ya kalau kisah percintaan itu penuh drama, intrik dan PERJUANGAN. Buat kata yang terakhir wajib aku caps lock, bold kalau perlu di garis bawahi. Maklum kalau inget perjuangan gw dulu BA (Before Amir) rasanya suka gak nyangka aja pada akhirnya bisa bertemu dengan “The One” dan bisa berkeluarga dan beranak pinak dan kalau kata Disney live happily ever after. Amiin.. πŸ™‚
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Mr. D’s Story


Mr. D, my dear friends, talked to me yesterday about his so-called-wedding plan. He said to me, it is CANCELED. I was literally shocked. I mean I was so happy for him (although I haven’t met personally with his girlfriend back then) and also so excited for him. Oh well, after he said the news, I kinda worried about him, and asked him to meet up. Of course with hubby…

We had dinner and he told me about all of his stories. It is about her ego he said, and how she treated him unrespectfully.. I tried to understand him and I agree after all of he has been through, I think she always exaggerated everything between them and always create conflict from a tiny mini bitsy situation. It was beyond logic, he said, and we agreed..

The funny thing is, the story of him and his (ex)-girlfriend,kinda reminds me of how I treated hubby when we were engaged. I still have this huge ego that he must faced back then (till now). I always created conflict from simple things. And exaggerated it like drama queen. When I heard his story, I looked directly at hubby, and wonder how could he stand me back then ? I mean, sometimes I treated him like a jerk. Although he always be kind to me. When I asked him about this, he simply answered..

I know u didn’t mean everything u said when u’re in emotion tingling.. And I know u didn’t want to break up with me when u said the break up word. And the thing is darling, it’s only took a while until u apologized to me.. πŸ™‚ U always did that, and I know u will do that..

Oops.. Hehehehe.. He knows me too much. But yes, when I was being a jerk to him, I knew that was my EGO talked. I knew that was my PMS talked. And I knew I had never ever wanted to break up with him. That’s why, after those string of emotions leashed.. I always get a grip to my senses, and acknowledge to him that I was wrong. I never afraid to say I was wrong to him. Because, I don’t want to loose him. Because, he is worth it to me. And he’s all I need in this world.

And then I said these words to my dear friend, Mr. D:

If she doesn’t want to say sorry to you. It means that you’re not that worth it to her. It is not necesarrily saying sorry when you are wrong. But you will know when the situation is wrong, and if you want to fix it.. It can be started with sorry..Β  U did that all the time. And I don’t think u’re all wrong all the time.. People make mistakes, everyday.. It just how u try to accept and to compromise it. I mean.. marriage is all about making compromise.. There will be no space for EGO that huge, dear. If u stay with herΒ  and her attitude, u will get suffocated it someday.. I think u make a right decision. And I pray all the best for u. May God show u the best way.. And we will always stay around for u.. πŸ™‚

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